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"I guess I should introduce myself. My name is Trey Morrison, 22 years
old, 5' 11" and I weigh around 150 lbs. To hear most people say it, I
am rather attractive when it comes to looks. I'm the classic all American
boy with blond hair and blue eyes. bla bla bla"

NO you should not, Trey!! Go away!! (Is this a violation of copyright stuff?)

What have I done!!! After all this time of following BFF religiously, I suddenly find myself a „BFF hater“, which bothers me much more than it probably should in the light of the impending wrap-up of the story and seeing as we may all be movin on from this fandom soon anyway. But ... it feels like being the only one who isn´t invited to a birthday party ... I´m posting this here and on Siennas own discussion/question answering board for this cause.

So, just to clear up some misunderstandings thay may have occured:

1 – I strongly identify with BFF-Jack, his temper, his gift of the gab, but his loneliness as well, and his love for shy quiet Ennis, that´s all me, except I was never good at sports, that´s more wishful thinking (I would´ve loved to be the football star of my school, and I would´ve loved to have a car ..). So, till now, I was always (well mostly) fine with Jack overreacting and being a drama queen etc., cause that´s just his (my) temperament.
But when he was so kind of snappish to Nick on the phone AND then waited two whole weeks for Nick to raise the topic again, instead of asking him what was wrong, well, I didn´t like that cause I´d like to think of me (= Jack) as a better person who would never be so unkind to his longtime best friend.  And since even peaceful Ennis feels the urge to reprimand Jack at times, I thought it would probably be okay to vent my feelings on this.

(Come to think of it now, though, I´m probably not all that much better, I tend to not answer the phone AT ALL when I have to expect calls from lovesick/ neglected/ pissed/ jealous/ broke friends.)
The last thing I wanted was to get into another lenghty discussion about Jack´s niceness/unniceness in general, or if he deserves a sweet and nice guy like Ennis. He does.

2 – I didn´t mind that Nick is curious about gay sex or sexually ambivalent – I´m just not that eager for a new sub-plot dealing with Nick and Grant right NOW, at a point where there are only five more chapters to go and I need to know about a lot of other things before this story ends. As a matter of fact, I don´t want this story to end at all. If it would go on for much longer I´d love to read about Nick´s rib-eating with Grant, because I imagine it beautifully awkward. But for now I´m more curious about other things ( = „the mysterious incident“ etc.).

Another point was about nice, normal guys who are gay, discover they are gay, or get curious about gay sex once they find out their friends are gay and how brave it was to introduce them ...
My point is: BFF is about nice normal guys being gay or bi or ambivalent - they´re called Jack and Ennis. Just because WE know right from the start that they will find out they´re gay doesn´t make that much of a difference. And I don´t think Nick´s experience would´ve been so different from Jacks .... I mean, they even had the same bitchy girlfriend ... play in the same football team ...
Another point was: do I horribly narrow-minded person think it would be impossible for Nick to have another heterosexual relationship after experimenting with same-sex-stuff?
The answer is: no, of course not. I just think it would be impossible with Lizzy, because she is, as we all seem to agree at least, not the most sharing, giving, understanding person, some people would go so far to call her a self-centered bitch. My continuity panic could´ve been easily soothed by just deleting that little half-sentence from the FT chappie.

3 -  My opinion on chapter 64: I thought it wasn´t really called for. Even though I didn´t approve of Jacks behaviour in chappie 63 it didn´t even cross my mind then to ask for a chapter (or an interlude or somesuch) where he can show that he still cares about Nick etc, and when it came I was more shocked that TWO WEEKS of precious BFF time had just been skipped OMG!!!

5 - The spanking. I haven´t even mentioned that in my last comment i THINK, but just for the record: I´m mostly ambivalent about it, it´s not that big a kick for me, but I don´t mind it in principle. I only think it´s always a little tricky to work into a story mostly about non-nonfunctional families and really nice people, even if I don´t see Whit as a monster because he gave both his boys spankings, I can see that trying to rein in Kendall might have called for drastic measures.
In „Looking Back“ for example it seems more natural, cause Jack´s parents are real assholes there who punish Jack because they hate their own life (or maybe there´s something else, we don´t know that yet). And I surely don´t think sexual abuse, non-con, domestic violence, well, any kind of violence should be banned from stories, I mean, half of the world literature wouldn´t exist if everybody thought like that.

 I´ve mentioned some of that in comments on BFF chapters before, but I don´t think I ever tried to bully S. or any of the readers into agreeing with me ... I mean, there are others who took a real dislike to Grant and mentioned that more than once – come on, everybody has had preconceived ideas of how a story should develop that don´t always agree with what the author has in mind, it happens when you leave your readers alone to play with your WIPs for too long (no that´s not meant as a threat, whatever will happen in ALSE for instance will be fine with me!!! but I want to meet Gaylord ... and I want to see Jack on Jay Leno ... okay, I´m just kidding) .